Gary Samuel graham Elder

gary was a fun lovin person who never took life too seriously. he was a die hard liverpool fan. he has a wonderful fiance called lisa who he loved with all his heart. he was the best brother anyone could ask for and the best fiance anyone could ask for, he put all his time into making everyone happy and helping others. He will be sadly missed by all his family his fiance lisa and everyone who knew him
rest in peace gary.

your life was cut short gary but you had more love in this world than you can imagine.

gary had so much to live for he had the love and support of all his family, he had one dream to go and watch his mighty liverpool play at home at anfield. i hope to do this in memory of him and sing his beloved you'll never walk alone amost a crowd of 50,000 +.


you'll never walk alone

It was saturday the 9th of august, gary had been out with his mates to celebrate one of them going to england. I got a phonecall at around half ten from his phone and expecting to hear a drunken gary on the phone i was so shocked when i heard his fiances voice as i knew she had been out with her mates as well. She told me i had to get my family up to antrim hospital quickly as possible that gary was ill and she didnt know what was wrong with him, so i said to my dad and while i phoned my mum he phoned the hospital to see what was going on. When i got off the phone with my mum i seen my dads face crumple and then i knew it was going to be bad news.
We arrived at the hospital at about eleven and when i got there some of his mates where standing outside the hospital waiting. i ran straight to lisa and myself lisa my mum dad and their partners where led into a family room. We were told that he was seriously ill and at this stage they had no idea what it was but the word cocaine had been mentioned and it was too early too tell if he would survive or not.
The doctor then led us in to see him but we could only go in pairs i went in with my dad first of all and the sight i seen scared me to death. Gary was lying on life support machine and because hed been lying so long before the ambulance arrived he had pressure burns on his chin arms hands knees and feet. It was then that we were told gary had died twice on the way to hospital but the ambulance crew had managed to revive him wit a slight heartbeat.
We were then led back into the relatives room and told that there was no beds at antrim intensive care so he would have to be transferred to the royal victoria hospital in belfast. it took 2 hours before they managed to get him stable enough to get him on the 20min minute journey.
We followed behind the ambulance and the whole journey just feeling as if it wasnt really happenin to my brother that it was someone else. WHen we got up to the i.c.u we had to wait bout half an hour or so before they would let us see him, at this stage i went in with lisa his fiance and the doctors where working with him and i remember askin the doctor would he survive and next thing i remember is a buzzing in my ears and weakness in my knees and to this day i still cannot recall what he said to me.
On the sunday morning my mum said to the nurse we were gonna go home to get changed and come back up again but was told we could only go home if we could be back in less than half an hour which we couldnt as it took bout an hour to get home due to road works, so i rang my dad and told him he had to get up to the royal. he arrived at about 11 and lisa mum arrived at bout 2 so everyone that was needed was there.
At around 3 that sunday night my mum and dad called everyone into the waiting room and told us gary was dying, i remember running out and just wanting my granny. then at around 5 we got called into relatives room yet again by the doctors to tell us that they were taking gary off the medication that was keeping him sedated, they told us once it had wore off if he woke up there was a chance he would survive but it was highly unlikely as because he had died twice already his heart was badly damaged and his brain was severly damaged as well. That night although slight gary started to take a few short breaths by himself but still he never opened his eyes.
On the mionday morning around 7 - 8 my mum came in and woke us all up and told us that gary had took a turn for the worse (we had all stayed in the hospital that night) so again the doctors called us in and basically told us he hadnt really made any response to being took of the medication and that it was getting to stage were they could do nothing more, i asked him would it be better to turn off the life support and take away the suffering to which he replied it was getting to that stage as all his organs where failing. At that stage they let us all in with him it was no longer in 2s only. At around half 4 i asked my mum could i play a song to him and she agreed i could if the nurses were ok with it, and they were.
There was myself my mum lisa bernie my mums partner colin my aunt jan colins cousin charlene all sat round the bedside with gary and i got my phone put on you'll never walk alone and set it under his pillow not a word was spoke you could just hear us cry for the son brother fiance and friend we knew we were gonna lose. After the song had been played i kissed his head and had to leave as i felt i was going into complete meltdown i just ran outside and cryed.
At 6.05 pm my mum came in to tell us gary had passed away, so in a state of shock myslef and my dad went in and again i kissed him on head and told him i loved him and walked out and down the corrider sobbing i just wanted to be alone.
It ws the cocaine that had killed gary it seems his friend had found it in his room and says he bought it a year ago and that gary had took it and he took a seizure. I just hope by use reading what i have wrote from a sisters side that if you do dabble in drugs maybe not every week maybe just once in a blue moon and you think that it wont happen to you and that you will be fine i just want you to look at wat ive wrote about gary noone is invincible please think twice about what you do to your body.

Gary there in no bond closer than a brother and sisters and still in death that bind cannot be broken. i know in the past i done things to you and you done things to me but so did every brother and sister, I saw a video of me n u and in it u said u werent the best brother in the world i just want you to know you were the best brother in the world u were always there if i needed help or just needed to talk i love you so so so much. miss u always


its almost 2 years gary and it isnt geting any easier whatsoever u are still the best brother in the world and i miss you more now than i did then gets worse every day. i love you so much you were an inspiration not only to me but to everyone who met you, your name is truly living on in everyone who truely loved you.

miss ya bro